LGBTQ+ Counselling

Affirmative counselling for LGBTQ+ people.

It’s often a high priority for gay, lesbian, bisexual, transgender or queer people to find a counsellor or psychotherapist who can offer affirmative therapy and support. Someone who ‘gets’ – or tries hard to get – where you are coming from. 

You may have tried psychotherapy or counselling before and felt your therapist lacked a full appreciation of how things are for you. I am committed to counselling for LGBTQ people which is affirmative, empathic and judgement-free, where you feel understood and safe to talk about all the things which are important to you. 

Counselling may sound daunting at first. But it is a tried and trusted way explore concerns and come through difficult times.  The issues you want to discuss may be related to your sexuality and sense of self. It’s obviously a hugely important part of who you are and can affect everything about how you feel about yourself and others. But of course you may also face many other problems, perhaps to do with anxiety, stress, work-life balance, career problems, depression, or bereavement.

You may want to explore yourself more deeply and work through things that have happened in the past. It may be helpful to look at the ways in which you are still affected by difficult experiences you went through earlier in life, including homophobic/prejudicial attitudes that may have influenced how you feel about yourself or how accepted and safe you feel in the world today.


Some issues that you may face as a LGBTQ+ person:

  • The coming out process: who to tell at work or home. Discussing the options and sorting through your feelings about coming out can be very helpful, not just when you first come out but also at later stages in life.
  • Relationships: being single, finding a relationship, improving an existing relationship or working through problems.
  • Self-esteem, confidence and ‘internalised’ homophobia.
  • Drug and alcohol concerns.
  • Getting older.
  • Shame, anxiety and depression.
  • Feeling isolated. Not being heard or understood,
  • Loss and bereavement.




Counselling for gay men and women: Stephen Davy BACP Accredited Member

 What to do now:

I’ve worked as a counsellor for over 20 years and I’m fully accredited with BACP (the regulatory body for counsellors in the UK). I am a ‘person-centred’ counsellor, experienced at both short and long-term counselling and psychotherapy. 

After you get in touch with me, we would schedule an initial phone chat and then a first session to begin talking about the challenges you are facing. These are opportunities for you to decide if you feel happy to work with me. I can also make sure that what I offer is right for you, or refer you on to more specialised services where necessary.

Assuming we decide to go ahead, we may decide to plan a series of sessions. For short-term counselling this would often be 6 sessions, to work through a current difficulty. Or you might decide to work together for a few months. Or you might prefer or have a more open-ended ‘contract’ and longer-term psychotherapy, perhaps to explore more deeply the historical origins of how things are today for you and to create lasting change.