Reframing Anxiety
When Anxiety Isn’t the Problem, But the Signal. Most people come to therapy because something feels too much. They say they feel anxious all the time. That they can’t stop overthinking. That they’re tired of the tension in their chest, the restless nights, the sense...
New Beginnings (Are Never What You Think)
William Bridges calls them “new beginnings,” but it’s actually the final stage in a three-part map of transition. First comes the ending. Then comes the middle bit: the “neutral zone,” which is neither here and now, nor back where you were. Only then, with luck and...
Life Transitions and The Neutral Zone: When the Old Life Ends but the New One Hasn’t Begun
When something ends, we tend to want a clean break and a fresh start. To move on and keep busy, not to dwell. That’s the cultural script, especially in fast-moving cities like London. But even if the outer direction is clear (and it isn’t always, by any means), inner...
Life Transitions
In spring of 2022 I moved out of London. A big transition. I wanted to live nearer my ageing parents and see what life outside the metropolis would be like. It turned out that I liked the fresh air and the birds singing in the high trees and the lack of traffic, just...
Breathing Techniques for Anxiety
Navigating waves of anxiety, can feel like an uphill battle. The idea of breathing techniques for anxiety may sound plausible in the abstract - when you're reading a blog post - but in the moment, when you're actually experiencing the anxiety, it can seem ridiculous....